BY TAYLOR WADE
Who knew using a matchmaker wasn't just for finding love?
Professional matchmaking services can be beneficial in ways you wouldn’t expect. From a real estate agent who sold five houses, to the girl who met her best friend after moving to a new city, to the woman who had a breakthrough in self-realization – there are many ways to benefit. This article is written from the perspective of a member who had the privilege of experiencing all three aspects.
A few months ago, we had the honor of meeting a young girl who had recently moved to Tulsa, Oklahoma. For all intent and purposes, we will call her “Ana.” Ana had been out of the dating scene for nearly three and half years and was a bit hesitant to jump back in. Dating had moved to the bottom on her list of priorities, while her professional goals were at the very top.
As part of the interview process, we ask members if they would like to: (a) meet people, (b) find a relationship, or (c) get married. Ana had left a checkmark in (a) meet people.
Ana always thought using a dating service had a stigma. You can't meet people on your own? Isn't it just for older people? However, as someone in her late twenties, she was over the bar scene and wasn’t having any luck with the people she encountered in her daily routine. She felt ready to get back into the dating scene and thought using a matchmaker would be the best way to meet lots of new people that shared similar goals and ambitions.
Before joining our matchmaking company, she went on two "dates" with her ex-boyfriend. This was what ultimately drove her decision to use our services. Sure, she enjoyed dinner with her former and felt a sense of comfort, but she wanted to feel that “spark.” She knew she had to get out of her comfort zone in order to do this. Using a matchmaker was the perfect solution.
Ana, now two months with our company, says using a professional matchmaker has surprised her in ways she had not expected. First, she met people in similar professional fields with whom she has been able to collaborate. For example, Ana was in the beginning stages of launching a new project. It just so happens that she had lunch with a journalist looking to write a story on an upcoming business.
Furthermore, being new to the city, Ana met great friends through our service. One date has become one of her closest friends in the city. "I immediately felt comfortable with him," she says, "especially because it’s more of a relaxed atmosphere when you both know you are using the service just to meet new friends.” That’s not to say we've never had singles in the “meet new people” category hit it off romantically. In many cases, many of these singles could not ignore the mutual chemistry, resulting in romantic relationships.
However, the most surprising element of using the service for Ana was how much it allowed her to grow as a person. "It was hard to put myself out there and even harder when I didn't hear from someone after a date, whether you liked that person or not. However, using the service to meet new people has helped me to relax a bit more and not worry about if there is a mutual romantic interest. I love it because you get to meet amazing people in a casual setting, and if you hit things off romantically, even better!" she admits.
Moreover, through meeting different types of people, Ana has been able to redefine who she is and what she wants. "You have a certain image in your head of the type of guy you want, but then you realize you aren't compatible with those traits you once pursued in a guy," she says. She goes on to explain how the feedback process with the matchmaker is also enlightening. "She asks questions that you wouldn't normally stop to think about after the date," she says. Going through the whole matchmaking process, according to Ana, has been an "eye-opening experience."
Ana has gained a new perspective on love and life. "These last few months have really helped build my confidence and have allowed me to gain a clear understanding of what I want in a relationship. I think I am ready to move my check-mark from (a) meet new people to (b) find a relationship!” she says.
Whether you are wanting to meet new people, gain dating experience, or ready to settle down and find love, using a matchmaking firm just may be a good choice.