How To Jump-Start Your Dating Life

By Leslie Wardman

1. Get Prepared For Dating

If you really want to succeed in the dating game, be ready to commit to dating. Halfheartedness won’t work. In fact, it won’t even get you half-way. If you really want to date, put some effort into it. Do some research and think about what you want out of dating. Prepare yourself for the inevitable rejection we all face at some point in dating and commit not to give up.


2. Get Your Act Together

Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself, and others can sense that.


3. Go Shopping!

Treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, but amplify and accentuate your positives. Throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. Your date will appreciate that you demonstrated some effort.


4. Think About What You Want

Think about what you want to gain from dating and what time frames you expect. Do you see yourself married within two years? If you do, then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don’t take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve.


5. Surround Yourself with Supportive People

Surround yourself with people who will support your dating aims. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Don’t sabotage this by sitting around with friends who are negative about love and relationships.


6. Be Realistic

Choose those you have a good chance of dating. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous, great! Just know that others will expect you to be the same.


7. Take Time Off

Take time off from dating occasionally if it’s not going well or causing dating fatigue. Recharging your batteries and keeping confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. We all hit rough patches, but don’t let your search for love become a death march. Date in phases if necessary.


8. Enjoy Dating For What It Is; Dating. 

Dating is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not play a bigger part in your life down the road. The fact is, most people have something interesting to offer. While you may not be out on the dating scene looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way. You would be surprised how dating can open up different opportunities, not only in love, but in friendships and career paths


9. Never Make Yourself Too Available

People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. As part of keeping up the mystery, do not sleep with your dates early on. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. (And yes, this goes for both men AND women!) If the chemistry peaks too early, your emotions may never have time to catch up and the relationship will eventually wither away.


10. Don't take anything too seriously!

Dating should be a fun and enjoyable process. While dating isn't always simple, there are steps you can take to avoid complicated and confusing situations. When you complicate things in the beginning of a relationship, you don’t allow the full potential of a relationship to come alive. 

I highly recommend reading 8 Habits of Successful Love-Seekers and Dating 101: The Simplicity of Dating before continuing on your journey to find your significant other.