Improve Your Relationship Through Self-Awareness and Insight

An important ingredient for a successful relationship is self-confidence, and an important ingredient in self-confidence is self-awareness — often defined as “the capacity for introspection and the ability to recognize oneself as an individual separate from the environment and other individuals.”

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How To Master Dating With Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is a squirrelly bedfellow. We all want it, we’re desperate for it. In America, we tend to worship self-confidence. In fact, I’ll go one step further - most of us in the Western world believe that high self-confidence is an actual birthright. Dare to admit your low self-confidence issues and watch as people have a shaming field day with you, no doubt plummeting your self-confidence even further.  

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"Hell Yes Or No"

The dating world is a continually unfolding set of possibilities and opportunities. You have the ability to meet new singles on a never-ending basis. However, when you meet someone worth pursuing, will you do just that? Will you make a choice to pursue this one person and exit the dating pool?

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5 Unexpected Benefits Of Marriage

When Americans decide to get married, it seems that love is the number one motive, with making a lifetime commitment, companionship, having children, and financial stability following. However, there are more reasons to marry, and possibly with even greater benefits than the aforementioned. Younger generations in particular need to understand tangible benefits that come with a strong marriage. If you are on the fence about marriage, keep reading…

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Can Your Dateability Be Written All Over Your Face?

Hormones are one clear link between appearance and personality. Two sex hormones specifically influence facial development – testosterone and estrogen – while two neurohormones impact facial expression and emotion – dopamine and serotonin.

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Guide For New Relationships

Making plans and buying gifts can be confusing when starting a new relationship. You're not serious enough to plan an extravagant weekend getaway, but you can see a future with this person. How can you show them you care without being over-the-top?

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5 Ways To Rekindle Your Relationship: And Why You Shouldn’t Follow Conventional Wisdom

What if everything we know about sexual passion in long-term relationships is wrong? 

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7 Signs You're Dating The Wrong Person

“If you’re always with Mr. Wrong, you’ll never meet Mr. Right,” a friend once advised me after draping my relationship malaise all over her. Rather than letting this cliche breeze past me, I pondered it. I realized there was more to it than just if you’re with person A, you can’t meet person B. It meant you must free yourself of the emotional angst tied to the wrong person in order to be emotionally prepared to meet the right person.

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5 Ways To A Thriving Relationship

Maintaining a healthy relationship is challenging. It takes time, effort and in the midst of a chaotic, busy life it can be easy to lose sight of healthy habits, such as open communication, respecting one another, maintaining trust, spending quality time together, and listening. I have gained vital insight from looking back at my own relationships and those of my friends and family. These reflections have allowed myself to grasp key elements of how to build and maintain a healthy (and thriving!) relationship. Here I outline five methods you can implement into your relationship now. 

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Online Dating Is Controlling Societal Norms Without Our Noticing

The air in Santa Cruz was warm and still as I sat among perfect roses in the backyard of the bride’s parents. At the key moment of this nontraditional Jewish wedding, the friend presiding over the ceremony took a moment to explain the Hebrew word kadosh. It’s translated as “holy,” or “the holy one,” but it also connotes the act of setting apart or elevating one thing above all other things of a type. Marriage is holy because each partner says, “You are the one person I choose out of all the people in the world.”

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Dating Without A Mask

Dating in our teens and 20s was challenging. Dating in our middle adult years, with significant ex’s, children, pets, mortgages, careers, and a boatload of emotional, physical and perhaps even financial baggage may seem impossible. I’ve single parented my son since he was very young, and didn’t have much time to date amidst parenting, working, continuing my education, doing dishes, mowing the lawn, and attending a sundry of various kid-related activities. So when my son left for college, I decided that there was no better time to start dating again.

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The Vital Ingredient In Relationships

Romantic relationships are wonderful. They make us feel alive, dynamic, validated and loved – when they work. They also make us feel deficient, undesirable, depleted and broken when they don’t. Being authentic in relationships requires transparency, which is pretty easy for most of us when things are going well, but throw in a wrench or two, and for many of us, all transparency flies out the window. 

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The Power Of Vulnerability

I believe that one of the most painful and life-impacting core human emotions is shame. Shame is a powerful universal emotion that often emerges when we feel deeply vulnerable about something, and believe that others have the power to judge us, and ultimately reject us. Shame tells us that we’re not good enough, that we’re unworthy, that we’re damaged goods. Shame elicits feelings of embarrassment, and often, a profound sense of humiliation that makes us want to either fight, or flee. 

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Dating Habits Of 5 Generations

I have a friend who is a single male in his 40s. He has never been married and he has no children. In one of our more recent conversations we talked about our own dating experiences and those of our friends. What I concluded at the end of that conversation was this: no matter your age, dating can confound us all. Comparing my own experiences to his, though, I found that as a 27 year old, single female my outlook on dating and love seriously differed from his.

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