Being courageous: Giving Up Fear As a Justification Not To Act
Courage is defined as mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.
Have you ever been daunted by a task or project you had to complete? Perhaps it was a college presentation which left you marked with fear of public speaking, a nerving meeting with your boss to request a raise, or your last chance to court the object of your affection. Think about moments of opportunity that life has presented you in the past. How did you feel when you pursued the moment? Probably accomplished, ecstatic, alive, COURAGEOUS. And how did you feel when you let the moment pass you by? Most likely defeated, weak, and spiritless. My goal is to get you to a point where you strive for these moments because you become addicted to this feeling of aliveness. Instead of waiting for these moments to come to you, you seek after them. Life regrets become a thing of the past.
How do we do this?
Like with anything, we begin at the stem: your train of thought. The issue most people have with these moments is they categorize the outcome in two boxes: “success” and “failure”. From now on, these labels do not exist anymore. Rather, we begin to view these moments as “life experiences” from which we learn, grow, and feel ALIVE. Once we correlate the seizing of opportunities with this feeling of aliveness, our brain begins to rewire itself.
The way you view yourself, other people, and life situations can change dramatically. All it takes is mental self-control and awareness of your thoughts. Every time you begin to dwell on fear, you have to become aware. After you awareness is achieved, you have the power to redirect your thoughts and feelings. Think of what you desire for the outcome. Become aware of how these thoughts make you feel. Continue this process.
PERFORM AN ACT OF COURAGE
- Start small. Here’s some examples:
- If you don’t like being in front of people, next time you’re at a group fitness class, for example, go to the very front of class.
- If you don’t like talking to new people, next time you’re in line at Starbucks, for example, strike up a casual conversation with the person next to you.
- If you’re uncomfortable expressing your feelings, next time you see your mother, for example, be the first to say you love her.
Just like with anything in life, being courageous takes practice. Taking baby steps to achieve the end-goal is OK. Start small. When you’re ready, take on bigger goals. Think of life as a game. Seeing how far you can push yourself. Seeing how many feelings you can experience in one moment. Surprise yourself. Surprise others. That’s what living is about.